I’m an open-minded woman with an inner desire to make the world a better place! Most of my time is devoted to my family and home, plus I maintain my own network of websites and blogs. I am the author of the book “How to Work from Home Online” plus I offer a variety of online services through my main site. To stay on top of it all I spend a lot of time connecting with others around the globe online using social networking sites and more.

I was born in Southern California back in February of 1978 – I was a 70’s baby!

When I was 19 years old I moved over to New York, but I’m a Cali Girl at heart and found my way back home a little over a year later. I’m a free thinker and always try to keep an open mind to what’s going on. I’ve definitely got a humanitarian streak, and I like to live my life creatively. I always try to solve problems and when I set my mind to something you’d better get out of my way! I’ve definitely got a tenacious spirit and can be a bit eccentric. What do you expect, I’m an Aquarius?! I’ve had my share of heartbreaks and joys, but ultimately my spiritual curiosity has led me to a place of inner peace.

I am always trying to figure out this crazy experience we call ‘life’.

I am divorced from my children’s father and am now in a committed lesbian relationship with my wife, Gina. Creating a ‘blended family’ has been an interesting experience for me so far, and we are doing well in raising our son and daughter thru it all. The children are two years apart and share the same birthday – the 4th of July. I love my babies with all I’ve got and have gone thru thick and thin for them. I have lost other babies in early pregnancy, and now the 2 children that I have are what’s most precious to me. I am involved in their day to day life and do my best to be a firm but fair modern mother. Because of a chronic illness called PCOS, I became extremely sick after I divorced. It was during that time that I officially ‘came out’ as a lesbian, and it wasn’t easy coming out to the world with two children from a previous marriage – every single relationship I had was put under stress. Now I do what I can to prevent negativity and lead a relaxed life. I take a holistic approach to my health and wellness, and do my best to stay centered and grounded.

Since my childhood was very dysfunctional, I’ve had to learn a lot of lessons in my life – some the easy way and many more the hard way.

I’ve really worked hard to take control of the direction of my life and evolve as a person from where I started. Through the tough times my spirituality has grown more profound; and my personal research has led me to ideas that shed light on the whole illusion of life. The book “The Disappearance of the Universe” (by Gary Renard) changed my life tremendously! It’s an introduction to “A Course in Miracles” which is a book published by the Foundation for Inner Peace. The changes you make as part of this course are simple changes in mental perspective. You don’t have to tell anyone, or shout from the rooftops, it’s all a state of mind. Sometimes you can’t change the things that are happening all around you, but you CAN change how you think about them. I am at the point now where I am searching for clarity on all this and delving more into things like meditation. New ideas and ways of looking at different experiences really do help me keep it all together and move forward with things in a productive way. Any time I pick up something to read, I try to choose something that will further my knowledge in some way and I love to learn insightful ways to improve on who I am as a person. I try to learn as much as I can by reading e-books, newsletters, magazines and basically anything else with words on it, plus it’s always fun to see how celebrities handle life.

Fashion also interests me because it’s such a big part of life and how people feel about themselves.

Most of what I have learned about style I’ve learned thru trial and error. I’ve made many fashion no-no’s and tried beauty secrets that should be kept secret! Sometimes I pull it together and make things happen… my curling iron works with me, my eyeliner isn’t fickle that day, and my kids don’t try to show me stuff when I’m putting on mascara. When I’m running around the house on the daily I like to throw my hair up and put on a good pair of jeans, but I love a good reason to get dressed up too. Because I work from home, most people consider me to be a housewife because most of the household stuff lands in my department. I am pretty good at organizing things which works in my favor since I’m not so good at staying on top of the mess with all that I have on my plate. It can be hard to get our little family of four together in one place sometimes, but when I do I love to cook hearty meals for us and any company. Exercising, having fun, laughing and enjoying life are also high priorities for me once I get the dishes done. Getting an eyebrow wax, massage or a pedicure is a nice treat, too. I try to enjoy being a woman and no matter what it is I’m doing, I try to make it count!

Gina and I try to stay connected through it all and at times it can be tough.

Through it all we are committed to each other and our relationship plus keeping our family going strong. We like to watch movies and laugh together plus it’s always funny to watch us in a heated debate, or fight for the remote. She’s a channel surfer – I’m a one channel woman. (*sigh) We are very much in love and you can usually see us out and about together at the grocery store, at the mall, or at the park with the kids. When I’m not taking care of the kids, cleaning the house, connecting with my wife, working on my blogs, or working on making my mind right and my body well, you can find me all across the internet discussing various topics of interest. It’s always interesting to talk with new people and like minded friends to get their perspective on life. As you can read, I am pretty open about my life and am not afraid to discuss personal subjects or ask detailed questions.

You can usually find me online using the screen name ‘lifechanges’ and with Yahoo and Google my screen name is ‘makingchangetoday’.

I’ve met many people online, and I link my website to all of my profiles across the internet. Besides social networking online, I am working on spreading awareness for key causes that make life better for others. The issues that I am actively trying to build awareness for are Social Equality & Civil Rights, Same Sex Marriage, Women’s Issues, Lesbian Rights, Children’s Issues, Literacy & Education, Global Warming, Food Safety, Medical Marijuana, Health Care Reform, Consumer Rights & Corporate Responsibility, Truth in Media, Prison Reform, Wildlife Preservation, Human Trafficking, Genocide Awareness, and Internet Safety.

I am always happy to meet like minded people with similar interests, especially other lesbian moms.

Add me on one of my social profiles if you think we would make good friends. I am always interested in insights, advice, and comments or finds, so contact me if you have anything you think I might be interested in. I really appreciate you taking time from your day to read “about me”.

Be sure to take care of yourself out there in this big world!

Sincerely,

~Julie Phineas~

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